Takeaways from 2022
Michelle Velan, Founder of Wondersource
What a year it’s been. As we close out the year, we always like to reflect on our lessons from the year. “Reflection allows us to process what happened in the last year, increase self-awareness and challenge our thoughts and ideas” – Carina Lawson, a time management coach.
Here are our main ones:
- Love yourself deeply and know that you deserve the best. This is something you have to decide and isn’t dependent on any external circumstances. Decide right now that you will love yourself deeply and be unwilling to compromise yourself. Here’s a link to a great guided meditation to heal the heart chakra and give yourself more love and here’s a link to a wonderful book on the topic written by Kamal Ravikant. When the company he spent ten years of his life building went under he became profoundly depressed. He couldn’t get out of bed. He felt emotionally empty and physically ill. Then, in his darkest moment, a meditation came to him, a chant that provided a ray of hope and solace: I love myself. Even when he didn’t believe it―especially when he didn’t believe it―Kamal continued to repeat this mantra over and over: I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.
- Prioritise your mental health. We ALL need to proactively support ourselves.
- You are worthy right now, exactly as you are, regardless of where you’re at, any mistakes you’ve made or perceived flaws.
- Don’t seek external validation or permission. When you look for it outside yourself, you give away your power and reduce your confidence. When you spend the time connecting to your inner knowing, whether it’s through meditation, walking in nature, journaling, or whatever works for you, it will become easier to validate yourself and give yourself permission to do things that feel right for you.
- Prioritise your sleep and taking good care of yourself. Eat less sugar and processed foods, limit alcohol, get natural sunlight daily, learn to relax and do things you enjoy.
Self-discipline is an act of self-love, stay committed and work towards your goals no matter what. Even when you don’t know what your next best step is, keep going, keep believing in creating a better life for yourself and trust that the guidance and support to take you there will come as you keep moving forward in the direction of the life that lights you up.
- Validate all your feelings (“oh hello anxiety”), feel them and let them go. When we get into the habit of validating and honouring our feelings, we feel more confident and worthy and less shame. Know that none of your feelings are “bad”, it’s healthy to experience a range of emotions.
- Be gentle with yourself and others. Develop your self-compassion skills. This is a skill that’s great for both your mental and physical health.
- Lighten up, smile, choose joy and playfulness again and again. Even if you’re going through something or you have more work to do or more to achieve, give yourself a break! And give others a break too while you’re at it.
- Speak passionately about the things you care about.
- Confidence is important for everything in life. Thankfully it’s a skill that can be learned. So, if you don’t feel confident, set that as a goal to work on. You can start by being willing to step into your greatness and true power. Believing in yourself even when you feel alone, even when your goals feel out of reach – keep believing! Here’s a guided meditation to help you step into your power and confidence.
- Set boundaries and spend time with people who energise you and make you feel good. Not everyone is meant to stay in your life and that’s ok. When you let go of relationships that no longer serve you, new ones that are more aligned will come in or it gives space for old ones to reshape in ways that are better for both of you.
- Make space for magic and miracles. Don’t be so logical. Everything that was achieved or built started from nothing – “magical” things happen all the time. Affirm that miracles are taking place in your life right now.
- Train your brain to look for the good. Too often we label things as “bad” or “good” but often the thing we thought of as good or bad turned out to be just the opposite.
- Release assumptions and work to stay open-minded.
- Visualise what you want to achieve. Dream big and don’t be afraid of your dreams. Even if you don’t know how you’ll get there, the first step is envisioning what you want your life to look like. Suspend judgements and know that you too are worthy and capable of living the life you want. Believe that anything is possible for you. Believe in the possibility of sudden blessings. When faced with the unknown, release worrying about the how and embrace trust. Have faith. Soften. Just because it isn’t happening quickly, doesn’t mean it isn’t on its way. Trust the process. Stay committed to what you want, stand tall. Keep showing up for yourself.
- Slow down to gain clarity, spend time in stillness often.
- When you’re feeling fearful, look at it as an opportunity to give yourself love and try the following mantra: “Higher-self (or whatever speaks to you), I choose to release this fear and look at it through the eyes of love.” Tell yourself that you’re “with fear” rather than “you are fear.”
- Listen to your intuition and learn to trust it.
- Always wish for and work towards a positive outcome even in the face of failure. Know that an abundance of hope can take you further than you could have ever imagined.
- Uncover your limiting beliefs and while it’s easier said than done, work to overcome them. Loosen your grip on what you believe to be true, be open to new perspectives. Maybe we feel we’re behind in life or we made bad decisions or things just don’t work out for us. Those are limiting beliefs and not serving you. Forgive yourself for any perceived missteps, you’re human, and work to let go of those limiting beliefs (when we chastise ourselves it holds us back and takes away our power). Everyone is worthy of living with confidence, success and joy. Here’s a guided meditation we love on letting go of grief, loss and rejection and limiting beliefs.
What are some of your lessons from the past year? I’d love to hear from you – email me at email@example.com to share your lessons.