Overcoming Indecision

by Michelle Velan

Every day we make decisions. Some are tiny. Others monumental. What to wear, what career to pursue, what to eat, where to live, etc.⁠

When faced with an important choice many of us can become immobilised with indecision. Fearful of making the wrong one and coming to regret it later. But decisions are inevitable. ⁠

No matter how reluctant we may be, we have to make them and then make peace with them. Of course it’s healthy to weigh options and consider outcomes, but long periods of indecision can leave us stressed and anxious. ⁠

For those that often like to avoid making the decision, it’s good to remember that that in itself is a decision. 

Sometimes we have to make a choice simply to move forward even when we’re not positive that it’s the right decision. There will be elements that feel right, others that won’t. But making an informed decision even one that feels good enough for now provides relief and allows us to rest.⁠

Decisiveness conserves both our physical and our emotional energy. It helps us to reduce procrastination, become more productive and organised, and gives us greater peace of mind by eliminating anxiety and improving our confidence.

Here are a few strategies to help you make a decision:

  1. Go for good enough – perfectionism often breeds indecision. Know that perfect is not an attainable goal and think progress over perfection. 
  2. Consider your idol or the best version of yourself – ask what they would do and then decide accordingly.
  3. Practice thought experiments – imagine yourself having made one choice and see how you feel. Choose the decision that feels intuitively the best.
  4. Know that a perfect decision is an illusion – if you keep checking in with yourself and choosing what feels right for you, you will gain insight and you can adjust as you go.

The next time you struggle with indecision, take a few deep breaths and create some space. Listen deeply to both your intuition and your sense of reason. Trust that you’ll make the best decision you can make right now. ⁠Notice how freeing it feels to follow your instincts and trust your judgement. The relief of simply having made a decision. ⁠Remembering that even if you decide you made the wrong choice, you’ll have gained insight that can guide you in the right direction.⁠

At the end of the day, we can think about things from every angle, turn them over and over in our minds, but really when it comes down to it, you have to go with your heart and move forward. Maybe things will go well, maybe they’ll turn out poorly. Every decision brings with it some good, some bad, some lessons and some luck.⁠ The only thing that’s for sure is that indecision steals many years from many people who wind up wishing that they just had the courage to leap.⁠

No matter what, above all, cultivate a love and acceptance of yourself. Making decisions can be hard and in some cases, there’s no way to know for sure which one will be the best for us. And, remember that if a decision didn’t turn out the way that you had hoped for, it doesn’t mean it wasn’t the right decision and in most cases you can adjust as you go. ⁠We can’t control outcomes, but we can control how we show up in the world. Decide to be more decisive because there are so many benefits.

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